Q&A With Tim — On Happiness, Dating, Depressive Episodes, and Much More (#390)

Welcome to another episode of The Tim Ferriss Show, where it is my job to sit down with world-class performers of all different types to tease out the habits, routines, favorite books, and so on that you can apply and test in your own life. This time, we have a slightly different episode.

As many of you know, I tested a “fan-supported model” earlier in the year, but I ended up reverting back to ads. That’s a long story, and you can read more about that at tim.blog/podcastexperiment. One of the bonuses that I offered to supporters was a live Q&A with me, and this audio is from the first round that we did.

We covered 40 or so questions! It was a lot of fun, the questions were great, and while it was scheduled as a one-hour session, we went for longer.

I answered questions on dating, depressive episodes, major life transitions, networking, uncoupling happiness from achievement, what I would hypothetically ask Richard Feynman, and much, much, more.

Please note that there were a few small glitches in the audio when the connection was poor. That’s one of the unfortunate risks of doing these live sessions. We’ve cleaned it up and it’s not too bad.

I also want to reiterate how grateful I am to everyone who contributed to and supported the podcast, as well as to all of you who listen to the podcast. I wouldn’t be able to do what I do without you, so thank you.

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#390: Q&A With Tim — On Happiness, Dating, Depressive Episodes, and Much More


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Want to hear another episode that had me answering listeners’ questions? — Give this one a listen, in which I tackled how to reassess existing projects, how to learn to care less about what other people think, how to ask better questions, and much more. (Stream below or right-click here to download):

#330: The Return of Drunk Dialing Q&A: How to Ask Better Questions, Take Better Risks, and More!


QUESTION(S) OF THE DAY: What was your favorite quote or lesson from this episode? Please let me know in the comments.




  • Am I still working on the self-love book with Greg McKeown? [07:15]
  • Alzheimer’s plus psychedelics latest research. Do I have a current stack for preventative, or would I try on a family member with Alzheimer’s? [08:00]
  • If I were 24 years old today and living in New York City, how would I approach dating? What assumptions or rules are important, and how can someone become more successful with dating? Is it possible to train yourself to be more confident? [09:15]
  • Do I still get depressive episodes? If yes, what are my top three tips for living with them? [15:32]
  • What would I suggest to an individual considering a major life transition — example given: stable, successful career to entrepreneur? What were my key considerations? [18:55]
  • Do I have a process or tool that helps me read so many books? [20:29]
  • Do the workouts in The 4-Hour Body still apply to someone on a keto diet instead of the slow-carb diet that was originally featured in the book? [25:04]
  • If I started out creating an automated cash flow optimized business today (as outlined in The 4-Hour Workweek), what would be the route I’d take given the tools and tech of 2019? [28:21]
  • Given what is known about the benefits of intermittent fasting, do I still stand by the 30 grams of protein within 30 minutes of waking up recommendation from The 4-Hour Body? [31:06]
  • Podcasts are getting competitive and crowded. Will there be a shift in my strategy to remain competitive? [35:58]
  • How do I network and get connected to people with whom I have no prior connection? Do I simply continue to provide value until they bring me into their circle? [39:13]
  • I rarely talk politics. Is this a policy of mine? What’s my thought process behind this? Do I have any tips on addressing controversial topics elegantly? [41:45]
  • If I had to pick one interview from the many in Tools of Titans, which one would I choose and why? [44:59]
  • Why don’t I do Tim Ferriss conferences? [45:35]
  • General advice for a 23-year-old? [46:36]
  • Do I drink a glass of wine every night? [49:21]
  • Everybody talks about the same things for reaching your goals: persistence, grit, focus, etc. What are the things — particularly the ugly (or at least less sexy) things — nobody talks about? [51:30]
  • Thoughts on the ad-free podcast experiment from a sustainability standpoint, and what trends I saw after the initial announcement. [58:59]
  • After listening to the latest interview with Josh Waitzkin (episode 375), it seems crucial to know what kind of learner you are. How does one determine this? [1:01:08]
  • My note-taking format when reading books with an eye to retaining and accessing key takeaways. [1:04:21]
  • How might someone get away from a goal-oriented mindset in which happiness becomes dependent on achievement? [1:04:43]
  • Have I ever considered having Jordan Peterson on the podcast? What are my thoughts on his carnivore diet? [1:08:52]
  • If I could go back and add one question to my list of questions asked in Tools of Titans and Tribe of Mentors, what would it be and why? [1:09:10]
  • In the interview with Jocko Willink, I said I initially wanted complete freedom, but realized that was too stressful and really wanted positive constraints instead. Could I elaborate? [1:09:36]
  • In reference to my latest Josh Waitzkin interview with the MIQ (Most Important Question gap analysis) how does one go about trusting the unconscious or subconscious release to bring insight? [1:13:07]
  • Should I try a more focused Q&A centered around a specific topic? And who is this Molly? [1:14:43]
  • How can you build patience apart from meditation? [1:15:21]
  • How did I meet Jerry Colonna, and what insights did I take away from my interview with him? [1:17:54]
  • Do I plan on interviewing Karlie Kloss? (Actually…) [1:20:26]
  • How do I balance growth and learning with mental rest in order to avoid overwhelm as I pursue personal growth? [1:20:44]
  • What advice would I put on a billboard? [1:23:37]
  • Any recommendations for someone heading to Austin in a few weeks for his bachelor party? [1:23:51]
  • What does my cooking look like these days? [1:24:31]
  • If I could ask Richard Feynman any question, what would it be? [1:25:20]
  • If they don’t already, which of my past guests do I think should have their own podcast ? What benefits might you enjoy by starting your own? [1:25:48]
  • Another recommendation for the Austin-bound bachelor party. [1:26:40]
  • Stacey Phillips gets an O for awesome! [1:26:54]
  • A truth I believe with which few might agree. [1:27:13]
  • Am I still fluent in all the languages I have learned? [1:29:27]
  • Do I still drink coffee? [1:31:18]
  • What’s on my current reading list? [1:32:13]
  • What is my current morning routine? [1:33:11]
  • Austin life compared to San Francisco? [1:35:57]
  • What advice would I give to my 42-year-old self if he were starting from zero? Does it differ from the advice I would give to my 23-year-old self? [1:36:17]
  • Parting thoughts. [1:37:36]