“A lot of growing up is learning to shift the responsibility from the other to the self.”
– Brian Koppelman
Brian Koppelman (@briankoppelman) is a screenwriter, novelist, director, producer, and host of The Moment podcast. Prior to his hit show Billions, which he co-created and executive produced (and co-wrote on spec), he was best known as the co-writer of Rounders and Ocean’s Thirteen, as well as a producer of The Illusionist and The Lucky Ones. He has also directed films, such as Solitary Man, starring Michael Douglas.
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SELECTED LINKS FROM THE EPISODE
- Connect with Brian Koppelman:
- The Royale (All Proceeds go to Food Bank for New York City)
- Brian Koppelman, Co-Writer/Producer of Rounders, The Illusionist, Ocean’s Thirteen, The Tim Ferriss Show #13
- Ocean’s 13
- What Would a Professional Do?, Seth’s Blog
- Where Are You Still Using Single-Ply?, tim.blog
- ‘Billions,’ ‘Rounders,’ and Andre the Giant with Brian Koppelman, The Bill Simmons Podcast
- Chernobyl, HBO
- Transcendental Meditation
- The Artist’s Way Morning Pages Journal: A Companion Volume to the Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron
- Dom D’Agostino on Fasting, Ketosis, and the End of Cancer, The Tim Ferriss Show #117
- What’s the Difference Between Momentum and Inertia?, The Workshop
- Billions Season 4 Premiere Dedicated to Dennis Shields, The Hollywood Reporter
- How to Lose 100 Pounds on The Slow-Carb Diet, tim.blog
- Opioid Crisis Fast Facts, CNN
- Johns Hopkins Center for Psychedelic & Consciousness Research
- The Godfather
- The Godfather 2
- Runner Runner
- Brian Koppelman at Vine
- Brian’s March 16th Quarantine Royale Post
- The Royale (All Proceeds go to Food Bank for New York City)
- Food Bank For New York City
- The NBA
- Jack Dorsey Has Revealed the Secret Way to Get Verified on Twitter (Kinda), Nieman Lab
- How to Increase Your Luck Surface Area, Codus Operandi
- The 4-Hour Workweek: Escape 9-5, Live Anywhere, and Join the New Rich by Timothy Ferriss
- The 4-Hour Body: An Uncommon Guide to Rapid Fat Loss, Incredible Sex and Becoming Superhuman by Timothy Ferriss
- Star Wars
- Apocalypse Now Final Cut — 40th Anniversary
- Hearts Of Darkness
- Sex, Lies, and Videotape Movie Edition Screenplay and Production Notes by Steven Soderbergh
- Making Movies by Sidney Lumet
- What I Talk About When I Talk About Running by Haruki Murakami
- Hard-Boiled Wonderland and the End of the World: A Novel by Haruki Murakami
- Little, Big by John Crowley
- Exhalation: Stories by Ted Chiang
- The Monologue Brian Wrote for Vincent D’Onofrio
- Godfather of Harlem
- Full Metal Jacket
- Final Draft
- Coronavirus Disease 2019 (COVID-19), CDC
Note from the editor: Timestamps will be added shortly.
- As lifelong learners, Brian and I have tried to help each other maintain momentum, not inertia, in our individual voyages of personal growth. A lot of it has to do with learning to take feedback with a professional — not personal — mindset.
- Brian admits he doesn’t always take feedback constructively in the moment. Here’s the question you should really ask someone when they solicit your feedback.
- How does Brian keep from saying something he might later regret to someone offering honest feedback that prompts an emotional response?
- When given honest feedback that prompts an emotional response, how does Brian keep from saying something he might later regret?
- We all get stuck at some point. Here’s how Brian got unstuck from one of his own struggles that may be familiar to many of us.
- Why it’s never a mistake to tell people to be careful with opioids — even if they have no history of addiction.
- To maintain the positive momentum of his own behavioral change, Brian checks in weekly with a supportive professional. What does this look like?
- Why Brian is glad he started his weight loss regimen 10 weeks ago rather than in the middle of self-quarantining.
- What led to Brian making an effort to close the gap between his public and private life, and how does he put this in practice? [:00]
- What is The Royale, and how can visiting theroyalebk.com help feed hungry people in New York?
- Is having a blue verification checkmark on Twitter really all it’s cracked up to be?
- Brian has always been proactive in using his craft as a vehicle for expanding his circle of friends and his circle of influences. Here’s how we became friends and the free-range serendipity that happened as a result.
- Brian’s favorite books and movies that showcase the messiness of the artistic process.
- Brian talks about the monologue he wrote for Vincent D’Onofrio, how it came about, the process surrounding it, and what it supports.
- When writing, how does Brian compose his first drafts? What does he tend to notice and refine on further drafts?
- COVID talk and final thoughts.
- Seth Godin
- Bill Simmons
- Michael Johnson
- Penn Jillette
- Craig Mazin
- Julia Cameron
- David Levien
- Amy Koppelman
- Mike Tyson
- Dennis Shields
- Francis Ford Coppola
- Tom Kretchmar
- Jocko Willink
- Deontay Wilder
- Jason Roberts
- Steven Spielberg
- George Lucas
- Eleanor Coppola
- Steven Soderbergh
- Sidney Lumet
- Haruki Murakami
- Ted Chiang
- Vincent D’Onofrio
- Peter Attia